Mum ‘upset’ as security guard follows her every time she shops

A mum is “upset” after continually being followed by a security guard in her local supermarket after accidentally setting off the alarms. She set the alarms off on her way into the supermarket which led to her bags being searched, but since then, the store security guard continues to “quite obviously” follow her. The woman suffers from social anxiety and is now filled with “dread” whenever she has to visit the supermarket.

READ MORE: Superdrug shoppers ‘obsessed’ with GBP6 concealer that’s the ‘best ever used’ The woman took to Mumsnet’s popular Am I Being Unreasonable (AIBU) thread to seek advice. In a post titled “[AIBU] To be upset about security guard following me?”, she said: “Before Christmas I set off security alarms going INTO my local supermarket.

Later found out it was makeup in my bag. On the way back out they went off again and security stopped me and searched my bag. “I go in to grab lunch from work every day and the security guard now follows me around quite obviously and watches me pay for things at self checkout.

I find it off putting. I know he’s only doing his job but as some one with social anxiety it makes me dread going in because I’m made to feel like I’m doing something wrong. There aren’t any other shops I could grab lunch in.”

She added: “I’m lucky it’s never happened before, I know. I’m a young looking white 20 something, but even as a teenager I can’t recall being followed. I wear nice ish work clothes.

No pushchair with me but carry a handbag. Am I being super unreasonable?” Fellow Mumsnet users weighed in with their opinions beneath the mum’s post.

One said: “The alarms go off all the time when they aren’t supposed to or because of someone’s simple mistake, it is not fair for you to be treated with suspicion when you’ve done nothing wrong.” Another suggested: “I would raise this with the store. Explain that a tag was not removed from something you bought from another shop and you had done nothing wrong, but now he follows you around all of the time, which as a young female, you find very creepy.”

A third disagreed and said the security guard was just doing their job and said: “It’s absolutely normal for them to stop people who set off alarms. The fact that an alarm went off when OP [original poster] went into the store is irrelevant. That’s a common trick of thieves, so I would say the security guard acted entirely within his job description.

It’s not about being fair. That comes after it’s established there was no wrongdoing. OP don’t take it personally.

It’s his job, you raised a flag. He checked you out. End of story.”

But the mum replied: “Yes he checked me out, except now he’s trailing me around so he clearly thinks I’m stealing or look dodgy.” Another Mumsnet user said: “Except he established that OP did nothing wrong once, and now assumes that she will do something wrong. That isn’t OK – he should be treating her like any other customer.

Shop security is notoriously unreliable. “OP I would challenge him if you feel able. ‘Can I help you with something?’ when he gets too close. A complaint to a store manager may also help the issue.”

Another commented: “I would explain the situation to the manager. At the very least security should be discreet. What a rubbish way to catch a thief.”

And another added: “I’d raise it with the store. It’s slightly ridiculous targeting for a stupid reason. Him so clearly following you repeatedly isn’t achieving anything at this point other than making you feel uncomfortable and I suspect it’s not actually what he should be doing.

I don’t image he’s supposed to make himself so visibly targeting someone.”

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